Wilms Tumor Patient & Family Handbook

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n ARE MY FEELINGS NORMAL? WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT THEM? Hearing that your child has cancer is shocking and overwhelming. Many parents say, “I didn’t remember anything after the words, ‘Your child has cancer.’” Parents often feel numb and have a hard time believing the diagnosis.

It is important to know this is normal and expected. Most families have difficulty processing all of the information the healthcare team is providing them in the beginning. However, information will be repeated and absorbed. Many families feel somehow responsible for their child’s disease. Feelings of guilt are common because they could not protect their child from illness or about the amount of time it took to diagnose the child. This disease is not caused by anything that you did or did not do. The cause of this cancer is not known. Symptoms are often the same as many childhood illnesses and diagnosis often takes some time. Feelings of sadness, anger, and helplessness about your child’s diagnosis are also common. These feelings are normal. Each member of the family may

express these emotions in different ways and at different times. Talking honestly with each other about these feelings, emotions, and reactions will help everyone in the family. Keep in mind there is no right or wrong way to feel. Each member of the family needs the chance to express their feelings when they are ready and in their own way. Talking to friends, family, and members of the healthcare team can be difficult at times—however, sharing your feelings can help you cope. Your child will benefit from family and friends showing their care through communication and support.

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